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05

May

elasticitymudflap:

ericaisawesome56:

farfromgotham:

Fun fact time: many of my old acquaintances still make joking comments whenever they see me wearing pink, because as a child (and honestly pretty much right up to high school) I would refuse to associate with any pink objects. 
It wasn’t because I didn’t like pink, it was because since I appeared female I was supposed to/ it was immediately assumed that I did and therefore it pissed me the ever-loving fuck off. I was ashamed to like it, which is terrible because pink is an awesome color. But when you shove it down young girls throats it gets really old, really fast. 
Give the child the fucking rainbow, and if they pick pink, it’s not because they are female and/or effeminate, it’s because they like the color pink. 

THIS.

Gosh this

And here we have why I ‘loathed’ pink as a child. Still not my favourite colour but that’s because it’s not my favourite colour, end of story. That said, I am wearing blaringly loud pink right now although I’d need to do a Marilyn Monroe standing over a subway grate for anyone else to be able to tell. lol And, actually, this is also why I tried to suppress my wicked awesome powers of colour distinction (seriously, just watch me sort jelly beans sometimes. I’m also great at comparing paint colours even though to everyone else here all three or four red samples basically looked the same and they couldn’t figure out which one would go over the old colour best and also key with everything else in that room) for so long because being able to distinguish/name lots of different colours instead of just red, blue, green, etc is a “girl thing” and of course something that boys don’t naturally do (and of course if they do do it then they’re “gay” and of course “gay” is meant in a negative way) and that comes to girls in a mystic feminine mojo kind of way. Not, you know, because in my case I’m a classic introvert and high-sensitive and really far to those ends of the spectrum on both so my brain is wired to make really fine distinctions between colours (and other things as well).

elasticitymudflap:

ericaisawesome56:

farfromgotham:

Fun fact time: many of my old acquaintances still make joking comments whenever they see me wearing pink, because as a child (and honestly pretty much right up to high school) I would refuse to associate with any pink objects. 

It wasn’t because I didn’t like pink, it was because since I appeared female I was supposed to/ it was immediately assumed that I did and therefore it pissed me the ever-loving fuck off. I was ashamed to like it, which is terrible because pink is an awesome color. But when you shove it down young girls throats it gets really old, really fast. 

Give the child the fucking rainbow, and if they pick pink, it’s not because they are female and/or effeminate, it’s because they like the color pink. 

THIS.

Gosh this

And here we have why I ‘loathed’ pink as a child. Still not my favourite colour but that’s because it’s not my favourite colour, end of story. That said, I am wearing blaringly loud pink right now although I’d need to do a Marilyn Monroe standing over a subway grate for anyone else to be able to tell. lol And, actually, this is also why I tried to suppress my wicked awesome powers of colour distinction (seriously, just watch me sort jelly beans sometimes. I’m also great at comparing paint colours even though to everyone else here all three or four red samples basically looked the same and they couldn’t figure out which one would go over the old colour best and also key with everything else in that room) for so long because being able to distinguish/name lots of different colours instead of just red, blue, green, etc is a “girl thing” and of course something that boys don’t naturally do (and of course if they do do it then they’re “gay” and of course “gay” is meant in a negative way) and that comes to girls in a mystic feminine mojo kind of way. Not, you know, because in my case I’m a classic introvert and high-sensitive and really far to those ends of the spectrum on both so my brain is wired to make really fine distinctions between colours (and other things as well).

(Source: feminishblog)

01

May

A Beginner’s Guide To Negotiation (Part I)

fuckyeahsexpositivity:

Let’s talk about talking.

Let’s say you’ve entered a long-term committed relationship with another person. How do you minimize fighting and resentment while also getting mutual satisfaction and fun out of the relationship? And the answer is (drumroll please)… you talk a lot.

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Crazy magical things contained herein. ;)

08

Apr

How to have sex with an asexual person.

edcunningham:

This is a very long and in-depth read, but it’s quite informative, if you’re interested in asexuality or know someone who is ace.

I hope someday I can be with a partner who cares enough about me to bother researching things to this degree. Because I’m terrified that I’m such a quiet and non-confrontational person that I’ll just try to quietly go with whatever they want/do so that they will not be put off, and it will be awful and bad and I’ll maybe end up traumatizing myself.

Also awesome as just a general guide to encounters of the sexy kind, especially as clarity and concision are the new sexy. ;)  And I think this, the awesome info of all kinds on Scarleteen’s website, and then the sex and relationship ed posts on the Pervocracy blog would make a kick-ass sex-‘and’-relationship ed class, because doing better than the awful abstinence-only ed classes my classmates and I got is one thing, but if you’re going to move the bar then you should move it high.

(Source: edcunninghams-oldblog)

10

Mar

I don’t care how much sex anyone has, how often they do it, or who they do it with. I’m much more interested in the consent, pleasure, and well-being of the participants and the people affected by it. I respect women who are asexual, celibate, monogamous, multi-partnered, or have had more partners than they can recall. I respect women who only have sex after a commitment to monogamy and those who have sex with someone within minutes of meeting them. I respect women who have transactional sex, women who have sex for love, or for any other reason. I know that all of these categories are permeable and that many women move from one to another. And I know that any of these decisions can be made from a place of personal power, choice, and authenticity, as well as from a place of coercion, shame, and disempowerment.

01

Mar

29

Feb

reanimatrix:

kamidoodles:

gailsimone:

alexsegura:

Archie Comics responds to the American Family Association:
“We stand by Life with Archie #16. As I’ve said before, Riverdale is a safe, welcoming place that does not judge anyone. It’s an idealized version of America that will hopefully become reality someday.
We’re sorry the American Family Association/OneMillionMoms.com feels so negatively about our product, but they have every right to their opinion, just like we have the right to stand by ours. Kevin Keller will forever be a part of Riverdale, and he will live a happy, long life free of prejudice, hate and narrow-minded people.”
— Archie Comics Co-CEO Jon Goldwater

I love these people more all the time. No weasel talk, no shame, no embarrassment, just a positive message in the face of bigots.
GO, ARCHIE.

always was a fan, but even more so now~

Archie comics is amazing

This comics cover makes me ridiculously happy.  As does their answer to the shit they’re getting over the comics.

reanimatrix:

kamidoodles:

gailsimone:

alexsegura:

Archie Comics responds to the American Family Association:

“We stand by Life with Archie #16. As I’ve said before, Riverdale is a safe, welcoming place that does not judge anyone. It’s an idealized version of America that will hopefully become reality someday.

We’re sorry the American Family Association/OneMillionMoms.com feels so negatively about our product, but they have every right to their opinion, just like we have the right to stand by ours. Kevin Keller will forever be a part of Riverdale, and he will live a happy, long life free of prejudice, hate and narrow-minded people.”

— Archie Comics Co-CEO Jon Goldwater

I love these people more all the time. No weasel talk, no shame, no embarrassment, just a positive message in the face of bigots.

GO, ARCHIE.

always was a fan, but even more so now~

Archie comics is amazing

This comics cover makes me ridiculously happy.  As does their answer to the shit they’re getting over the comics.

73 x 5 Sunrises: One MillIon Moms Protest Comics

gailsimone:

…and what should be done about it?

The bigot group ONE MILLION MOMS is protesting Archie Comics for their positive and prominent portrayal of a gay male character, Kevin Keller, in their recent books. They are also protesting Toys R Us for displaying and selling these books.

Toys R Us is one of my least favourite places to be in but I feel a very sudden need to go there.

19

Feb

Have I ever had “ANY unwanted/undesired physical or sexual contact”?

thebaddominicana:

Earlier in this pregnancy, I filled out my “Initial Health History” form for prenatal and birth care. You know: check the box if you’ve experienced severe headaches, diabetes, all sorts of things. After the usual “Emotional abuse,” “Physical abuse,” “Sexual abuse,” I got to this very interesting item: ”ANY unwanted/undesired physical or sexual contact.”

read the link. so spot on.

Really, really excellent blog post and discussion in the comments section of the blog, and just had it be a morning coffee discussion with some of my friends (and I’m sure it’ll be discussed more later, and with the Southerner as well).  And a reminder of why the BDSM community rules about explicit consent and not just going off of implied consent ‘or’ getting one explicit “yes” at the very beginning and taking it as blanket and as continued permission sound so very very appealing to me and also highly applicable in non-BDSM contexts for everyone.

(Source: manifestfreedom)

16

Feb

eldritchjoy:

lord-kitschener:

foreverliberal:

Virginia, Don’t Ban “Cross-Gender” Dress
A school district in Suffolk, Virginia is trying to ban “cross-gender” dress in order to protect students from bullying, and murders and suicides that are connected to it. This policy would ban students from wearing clothing that does not match their gender, or that causes a “disruption” or “health or safety concern”.
Despite the fact that the policy is vague — what exactly is outside of a student’s gender? — it is also very problematic. Students who don’t identify as their biological sex would be forced to dress a certain way, making so many kids feel uncomfortable and prohibiting them from expressing themselves. This would violate the freedom of expression. 
Forcing people to conform to make other students feel comfortable does not get to the root of the problem — prejudice —  it will simply shove it under the rug. The way someone expresses their gender is never a disruption or a health or safety concern unless it is allowed to be. 
Instead of violating these students’ freedom of expression, tell the Suffolk School District to enforce bullying policies that strongly protect gender expression and teach their students to accept people as they are! 
Petition is here — http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/Virginia-Dont-Ban-Cross-Gender-Dress/

Or you could, you know, actually fucking punish bullies for bullying.
Which, in my experience, is a completely revolutionary concept for schools.

This is very important.

Oh, um, wow, so if I had dressed in trendy super-girly clothes in elementary and middle school no one would have bullied me, no less viciously, for being ace and an introvert and a genius and for finding trends and restrictive gender roles and gender presentation idiotic and illogical?  News to me, news to me.

eldritchjoy:

lord-kitschener:

foreverliberal:

Virginia, Don’t Ban “Cross-Gender” Dress

A school district in Suffolk, Virginia is trying to ban “cross-gender” dress in order to protect students from bullying, and murders and suicides that are connected to it. This policy would ban students from wearing clothing that does not match their gender, or that causes a “disruption” or “health or safety concern”.

Despite the fact that the policy is vague — what exactly is outside of a student’s gender? — it is also very problematic. Students who don’t identify as their biological sex would be forced to dress a certain way, making so many kids feel uncomfortable and prohibiting them from expressing themselves. This would violate the freedom of expression.

Forcing people to conform to make other students feel comfortable does not get to the root of the problem — prejudice — it will simply shove it under the rug. The way someone expresses their gender is never a disruption or a health or safety concern unless it is allowed to be.

Instead of violating these students’ freedom of expression, tell the Suffolk School District to enforce bullying policies that strongly protect gender expression and teach their students to accept people as they are!

Petition is here — http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/Virginia-Dont-Ban-Cross-Gender-Dress/

Or you could, you know, actually fucking punish bullies for bullying.

Which, in my experience, is a completely revolutionary concept for schools.

This is very important.

Oh, um, wow, so if I had dressed in trendy super-girly clothes in elementary and middle school no one would have bullied me, no less viciously, for being ace and an introvert and a genius and for finding trends and restrictive gender roles and gender presentation idiotic and illogical?  News to me, news to me.

14

Feb

Vanilla Garlic: The Argument for Same-Sex Marriage: Kiwi-Gin Cocktail

One of my favourite food blogs to read and since I think you should have figured out by now that I’m not much of a mixed cocktail girl, you can probably guess that I’m posted this for his prose. ;)  His is always entertaining but this one is especially good and the comments as well.  Plus, if you ‘do’ like mixed drinks, this one is quite pretty.

Kiwi Gin Cocktail!